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Bring Happiness


Being human is a funny thing. But, its not funny in the “Ha-ha” fashion.

 

It’s the kind of funny where you reach an impasse in life and the only thing you can fathom to do is laugh.

 

Life is not complicated friends, readers, and listeners. We can make it complicated when we overthink our lives, or the lives of others as we so often do. I want to do you a favor right now. I’m going to tell you the secrets of being happy, even though they’re all in plain sight I understand many people may never have thought to look so close.

 

Be honest. Be kind, even when it is disadvantageous to do so. Do not do unto others as you would have them do unto you, but instead be kinder still than you would have them be. The secret of life is give freely and take little.

Humans have survived for centuries on far less than anything we have today. You don’t need a full pantry to eat, you don’t need seven pairs of shoes, you don’t even need two pairs. You don’t need pre-ripped jeans. We don’t need all of the “things” that we fill our lives with. The only thing in life that is worth any value is the change for good that we make in the lives of those around us.

That also means that I personally, don’t think donating to African starving children is necessarily a “good” thing. To make a difference you have to put in the energy, you need to put in the time yourself. Paying someone else to do it will not bring about change. 

Give someone else a slightly better day. Be a nice person, you’ll be happier for it.

 

If you find yourself tired, if the sun has struck away your tears and the dirt has dried the blood from your hands, if the leaders of tomorrow smile in their warm beds for your labors, you will find yourself wanting for nothing.

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Wiggly Wednesday


Meet Pepper

It’s a Wiggly kind of day! 🙂 Today being a Wiggly Wednesday I searched the lands and found an adorable pup around which to center today’s post. The cute lady in the above photo is named Pepper. She’s a friendly pup, if not a bit odd (but the best of us are). Apparently she’s deaf, but that doesn’t slow Ms. Pepper down at all. The happy pup loves to play. You might say, she Wiggles.

Pepper is adoptable  from adoptapet.com but she is just one pup in a world full of loving animals just waiting to Wiggle into your lives and reduce the stress of the daily grind. So, play with your pets if you have them or, if you can afford to adopt a new family member, why not go and adopt a pet so you can teach them the wiggling ways? Or perhaps adopt  a pet who will teach YOU to Wiggle!

Wiggle on, friends. Wiggle on.

Be kind, and do something nice for a stranger today.

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Be Kind, For There Is No Reason Not To Be


Here at ComplicatedMadeSimple I will always try to help you the best I am able. The reason I do this is simple: I want to help you. But in today’s post, I’d like to point something out to you, the reader. Along with almost every post here I write at the end: Be kind, do something nice for a stranger today. I’d like to use today’s post to discuss that a bit.

If you’ll indulge me, I’m also going to give you a brief view into me for those of you that don’t know.

I am generally a very nice person. I feel that it takes a good amount of someone else’s effort to get me to be anything otherwise. It is with that in mind that I am confident saying that I am a very nice person nearly all of the time. Being the nice person that I am is sometimes quite difficult. I do things for others when I would sometimes rather do something just for myself. I give to other people when I am barely able to give. I do my best to try to make sure those closest to me are as happy as I can help them be. Doing this is very rewarding, just not in the material sense.

I am able to go to sleep every night because I know that I do not have guilt over any of my actions from that day. Throughout the day I may wish that I knew more about certain things so that I could help more, but whether I choose to go and learn more in that day or not, I will not be able to help someone right then, and that is okay. I have no illusions about wanting to help everyone.  It it because I am consistent in my effort to help people as much as I am able that I am able to move forward in so many ways. Life will always be difficult, and there will always be another hurdle after you have long since run out of energy. There may come a time where you are unable to make it over that next one, but you’ll make it past many more if you are able to free yourself from the “guilty weight.”

All that being said, I used a quote in Saturday’s post.

Be kind to those that meet you as you rise, you may pass them again as you fall.

The above Irish quote has been used all over the world with different variations all resulting in the same meaning. The meaning is simple: Be nice to those you meet when you are in power, you might come across them again when you are without it. Taken in a general light, be nice because it will never hinder you, only help.

We share our world with more than seven billion people. It has become even more important than it ever has been to be nice to other people known and unknown with the sole reason of being nice for the sake of being nice. You may find your actions and inactions harmless because you do not see a direct cause of what you have done to someone else’s day, but you do effect them. The smallest movement can create the waves. Otherwise known as the Butterfly Effect (a small part of Chaos Theory).

In an effort to reduce your daily stress, daily problems, and just all around daily sorrow, I’d like you to be nice to someone you don’t know, or even someone you see every day. Be nice for the sake of being nice. The reaction that you will get from a total stranger will be well worth any amount of effort you put in to being nice. People may come to expect you to be nice after you’ve known them for an amount of time, or they may expect it because you are their family member or other important person in their life. So obviously they may have slightly less gratitude than someone who has absolutlely no connection to you. But the feeling that you will get inside will still be a good feeling no matter who you are nice to.

It may be considered tacky to say that being nice is its own reward, but it really is. You usually do get more than the simple reward of just being nice, though. Typically, you will also get the gratitude from whomever you are nice to and, more importantly than that, you will have made someone else’s day better than it was.

An example:

Someone’s car breaks down, you know absolutely NOTHING about cars. Most people in this situation would just drive by and assume that someone else is helping them or that they’ve called someone.

You are the one who stops and offers your phone to this person to let them call whomever they need for assistance. You discover that you’re either the first car that has come by and they are grateful, or you are the 50th. (It happens.) Everyone thinks that someone else will help someone. You’re never going to make someone else’s day worse by offering to help them. If anything, you’ll make them happy that more than one person is willing to be there for a total stranger.

So please, do it for yourself, and do it for all the seven billion other people in the world.

Be kind, do something nice for a stranger today.

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Two General Actions Part 2


In our last post, we left off with my reasons for favoring the Wait And Think approach as opposed to the Simply React approach. To see the whole post from last week, please click this link: The Two General Actions.

Everything in life demands some sort of reaction from us. These reactions with which we respond are all on one very large spectrum of possibilities. But, to keep things simple, we’ll just say that you can either have a very good, thoughful response to something, or a response that potentially results in disaster.

Every day is a new day, and with those new days come new choices, new opportunities. We can either choose to immediately react to whatever is going on around us based primarily on instinct, or we can wait and think of a more appropriate action within our capabilities.

I’ve always found that when I’m needing improvement in an area, it’s easiest for me to improve myself once I’ve fully identified the parts of myself that are lacking. This is why I typically have you examine yourself in each post to identify if you have any areas that could be improved.

So, with that being said, I’d like you to take a moment here to identify which of these two categories you typically fall into.

React

  1. A car accident happens near you, you instantly run towards the vehicle, hoping to help whomever was involved,
  2. You see someone bleeding nearby and rush over towards them to assist.
  3. Your computer starts to become slow and you simply replace it with a new one (or throw it against a wall)
  4. The lights in one of your rooms are consistently dying so you go out and buy new bulbs to replace them every time they go.
  5. A fire starts in your kitchen and you don’t have a fire extinguisher (you should get one). You throw water onto the flames.

Wait, and Think

  1. A car accident happens near you. Looking at the vehicle, you notice that the engine is on fire. After calling 911, you proceed more aware of the dangerous situation in which you may get involved should you choose to assist.
  2. You see someone bleeding nearby. Before you rush over to assist the person, you notice that there is a large group of people running away from the bleeding person. This alerts you to a dangerous situation. With this knowledge, you can now make a decision as to what to do. If you had simply run over there without looking or thinking, you could have potentially become another victim.
  3. Your computer starts to slow down. As you think about your recent computer usage, you realize that it’s been awhile since you’ve cleaned your computer and, consulting the internet, you find numerous ways to increase the speed of your computer without spending any money. Even if you do need to spend money, you’re able to keep the total costs low (unless your computer really has reached its end).
  4. The lights in one of your rooms are constantly dying. After replacing the lights about two times in two weeks, you notice that it only seems to happen when other people are using electricity in the house. Instead of wasting money constantly replacing the lights, you’re able to realize that your room has faulty wiring that can be both costly and dangerous if not tended to promptly.
  5. A fire starts in your kitchen. You don’t have a fire extinguisher. (Again, get one! The benefits far outweigh the cost!) Because this fire happened in the kitchen – possibly in a pan – it is possible that the fire is a grease fire. Considering that putting water on an active grease fire causes an explosion, that would not be smart. You’re not sure that it’s a grease fire, but to be careful, you assume that it is. You find a metal pan or lid or something to smother the fire, cutting off the oxygen and extinguishing the fire.

I made a point to use the exact same examples with two entirely different responses. These situations are obviously more on the extreme side, and these responses are not the only options. So please, apply these to yourself as you are best able. The point is to identify which of the two actions you are most likely to take. To those of you who would typically give your reaction a moment of thought before you simply react, some of these examples may seem silly. But people do simply react all the time. It’s not always bad to react, and doing so does potentially take care of a problem much faster. The important part to remember, though, is that the fast solution is not always the right one. When you react instantly to a situation, you lose vital time to assess it. For the small amount of time that you lose when you give yourself pause to think, you might potentially save lives. (I am currently training to become a paramedic, and one of our basic lessons is that you must always take time to asses, no matter how dire the situation. Yes, time is a factor, but without proper assessment, you could further endanger the patient.) For your day to day problems, you’ll be much more likely to actually solve your problem instead of creating a bigger issue and/or prolonging the original one.

After reading the previous post and now the post from today, I’d like you to really ask yourself; do you react instantly, without any thought, driven exclusively by instinct? Or do you wait and think of the most you appropriate action to take?

Don’t do double work, don’t put someone else at risk. Think about what you’re doing before you do it. If you’re able to assess before you react in everyday situations, your life will be greatly improved. It isn’t just your actions that can get you into trouble when you react instinctively. The same goes for the words you choose to say and how you say them. Thinking for just a few seconds can help tremendously in nearly all situations, such as:

  • Controlling Anger
  • Avoiding Conflicts
  • Saving someone’s life
  • Avoiding a car accident
  • Choosing the right path
  • Knowing when you’ve met “The One”
  • Accepting a job
  • Knowing when to say no to a job
  • Everything!

Be kind, do something nice for a stranger today.

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